The emotions on this page represent what happens when we attempt to punish an ex-spouse. As we “move right” our focus shifts to our child.
| “I want you to suffer for what happened to me.” |
“Nothing has changed the love we have for our child but I want my child with me instead of my ex.” |
| “This divorce was not my fault and I am going to make sure everyone knows it.” |
“I know there are some things I need to apologize for but I would rather talk about other people.” |
| “I want to have some fun. I don’t want to wait another minute.” |
“Maybe it will be different this time, even if it isn’t, it will probably be okay.” |
| “I need to make sure my child never knows what I have done wrong.” |
“I know I am not perfect but it is easier to talk about other people that to admit my mistakes.” |
| “My child doesn’t need anyone but me.” |
“It is not easy to cooperate with my ex but my child’s needs are different than mine are.” |
| “I need to find someone new in a hurry. I don’t want to look like a loser because I couldn’t stay married.” |
“I am afraid to be alone.” |
| “You owe me. I want you to pay for what I have been through.” |
“I worry about how I will get by with less money.” |
| “I enjoy watching my ex struggle. Everything is his[her] fault anyway.” |
“I am uncomfortable around people who seem to be doing better than I am.” |
